The Friend Code-"Know Thy Frienemy"...Inspired By Evelyn and Jennifer!!

The Friend Code-”Know Thy Frienemy”…Inspired By Evelyn and Jennifer!!

Published by Jeannell on June 12, 2012 | 1 Comment

Bestie, Ride or die or whatever you want to call that one person that gets your whole being, knows how you tick, knows what you really like and how you like “it”, how you get down and has the spare key to the closet where all of those skeletons are locked away at…

That title holds much weight and the responsibility of the job is one that many people aren’t capable of living up to, so how do you know if your best friend is true blue or a little green with envy and more like a frienemy???

Lets Break Down Friendship…

Quality over Quantity- Just because you’ve known someone for a lifetime DOES NOT mean that they have your best interest at heart. Children don’t have the capacity to pick quality friends…

Birds of A Feather- The statement rings true in so many ways… Does it mean that if your friend is a ho, you’re a ho? NO, but it does mean that like-minded people have the best friendships, because there is a commonality that brings you together; similar values, morals, goals etc…

Real Friends Are NEVER jealous- Jealousy is an ugly monster that wreaks havoc on the lives of insecure people who focus more on what you have, instead of focusing on how to get what they’re lacking in their own lives! Real friends lift you up, no matter what is going on in their life; they admire you and may be inspired by you, but they are never, ever jealous of you…

Real Friends Are Present- A friend is constant! And I don’t mean on the phone every minute or at your house daily, but I do mean when and if they are needed, they are there! Maybe life responsibilities don’t allow for the quality time that was once available to nurture your friendship, but it shouldn’t change the essence of that relationship.

Real Friends Encourage Growth- Sometimes Circumstances in life leads people in different directions; in fact in order to live a productive life, change and growth are necessary, a real friend will not be intimidated by your growth, but rather encourage it; whether it’s entering a marriage, furthering your education, changing careers or starting a family. A real friend should always encourage and welcome positive life changes for you!

Safeguard Secrets- Most everyone has heard the song and the words, “I do my dirt all by my lonely”, right?? I get it, but there’s nothing like having someone that you can share ANYTHING with and knowing with 150 percent certainty that they would never betray your trust and reveal what you’ve shared. Be clear that if there is a doubt about this or a break in trust, the authenticty of the friendship is certainly in question and at that point, get that person out of the mother-f-ing circle…

***Jewel- Know the difference between a real friend and an associate, know thy frienemy!