“Happy Wife…Happy Life!” or so they say!
What happens when you realize living an individual life is a driving force in your idea of happiness, or so it seems? The moment you come to a point where you see love and life as a split road, two separate entities.
Both Men and Women have goals and aspirations, things we have decided we wish, and often MUST, achieve in this life time. There may come a pinnacle in your life, and for you it may be this very chapter, where you feel it is imperative you make progress and best you stay clear of a relationship in order to get things right, by your definition, for yourself.
Companionship is in human nature, we do not have to be taught to want to be loved, from day one, we NEED someone else; however, our world is changing.
Independence seems to be over powering intimacy. Am I wrong?
With the rise in desire for the lavish loft and luxury coupe versus the traditional move to the Suburbs to start a family and live happily ever after, where do you fit in?
Our twenties seem to be a crucial time for us to decide to take advantage of youth to study, travel and build a reputable career OR to find an ideal mate, begin a family and do the same with a little less leisure.
Is there any way we can get the best of both worlds? It seems to be one or the other, to an extent, or maybe one is a bit more challenging with the other.
There have been many times people have done the family thing, wake up one day and realize they’ve spent much of their time in an “us” lifestyle and have forgotten, or never gave, THEMSELVES a fair chance at getting to know who they are and what it is they actually want out of life. On the flip side, there are countless 40something year old bachelor’s and bachelorette’s who have attained many things, seen rare and cultured parts of the world, all the while basking in a lavish lifestyle only to wake up and find themselves…lonely. Not taking the time for companionship, they have everything but someone to share the successes with.
With this independent lifestyle being promoted, are we molding ourselves into a people who will choose competition over compassion? How do we find a medium here?
What do you think?
Written By: Starr A. Moore
© 2013 
I don’t really agree that people are wholesale choosing personal achievement over finding a partner and starting a family. While at times they are at odds (my homeboy and his girl just split because he chose his career over her), I think the case with educated individuals (the same ones who are legitimately striving for career achievement), the need to get married and settle down is delayed compared to previous generations, but that doesn’t mean it has become any less important to us. Like you said, there are people who appear to have everything, but are alone and miserable. I think if mid-twenties was the time to get married before, late-twenties to early-thirties is that new time period. Just my opinion… I have absolutely NO stats to back that up lol.