Am I really happy in my relationship???

Are you truly happy in your relationship? On the outside all appears to be fine and dandy. Dinner is cooked, the house is maintained, conversations are held, and sex is had! But at the end of the day, are you 100% happy in that relationship? Most people I have asked have answered no. And those that answered yes, were married.

 

So what’s keeping you in that relationship? I’ve come to find out that many people stay in those types of relationships for their own personal gain or selfish reasons. In my personal opinion, it can be one of a few reasons.

 

1. Last year you and your mate broke up due to your own indiscretions. You were not happy in that relationship and decided to cheat. After a few months of you trying to get back together (because that’s what you thought was the right thing to do), your mate finally takes you back. Now in the back of your mind you were only trying to get back together because you knew you were initially wrong. Instead of being honest and coming clean to your mate about your unhappiness and lack of commitment for the other person, you string him/her along making it appear as if it’s all good. This is what’s called selfish.

 

2. You two met sophomore year in college. He is the popular football player, grades are average, he is goal oriented and has strong family values.   She is the envy of all the females on campus. She has the looks department on smash, straight A student, several internships, cooks, cleans and has a promising future.  After several years of dating, no public problems, and are now established in your careers, you become the “Good on Paper” couple. No matter what you go through, that fear of not finding the credentials that your current mate has outweighs everything else.  You’ll end up getting married, having children and then divorced by the time the kids are pre-teens.

 

3. Finally, let’s discuss the stable couple. This is the couple that has a provider. The man is knocking down 6 figures while the woman stays home and tends to her domestic duties.  Typically when one person provides for another, the control aspect comes into play.  For example, if I’m paying all the bills and providing all the necessities as well as luxuries that are required for you to live life, you will be obeying my every command. Not to say that’s the way it should be, but honestly, that’s the way it is.  The woman gets lazy and she rather deal with the man’s controlling ways, than get out of a miserable relationship and provide for her self.

 

At the end of the day, I am no ones dictator of what makes them happy or unhappy in their relationship. Some people are just happy to be in one. But judging by the divorce rates, many of them may just be lying to themselves and will eventually get fed up. Maybe it’s time for you to re-evaluate your relationship and ask yourself, “Am I truly happy?”

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